I’m making bread
bread boys
my sons!
The
Buzzfeed article was titled “This Man Invited People To A “BBQ Not
Orgy” On Grindr And It Was Surprisingly Heartwarming.” It’s about how
Chris Bowman, a 61 year old man from Apex, North Carolina has been hosting an
annual summer BBQ. He advertises this BBQ through the gay dating/hookup app,
Grindr. It’s about how the event is surprisingly sweet and Bowman, who is a
recovered alcoholic, wants to give back to the community and bring people
together.
TL;DR
Chris is a registered sex offender with a history of pedophilia and preying on
young people. His ‘not an orgy’ and community talk is a gaslighting tactic to
groom young people into having sex with him. Buzzfeed, Vice, and other social
media outlets giving his event a platform endangers LGBT youth.
Buzzfeed
Link: Click
Here
Time
for the real shit. Buckle UP.
A
group of four of us (J, M, S, and A) attended the BBQ in the summer of 2017. J received
an invite similar to the one shown in the Buzzfeed article over Grindr, and we’re
young and dumb so we decided what the hell, let’s go. We rolled up and saw a fire
truck and ambulance already there. He’d invited the local fire department and
EMS to attend the BBQ. The food was admittedly very good, and the crowd was a
strange mix of after-church and from Grindr. Most of the other folks at the BBQ
seemed fine and kind. Buzzfeed got that right. Here is what they left out:
HE’S A SEX CRIMINAL
His
page on the NC registry: Click Here
More
information about his charges & appeal: Click Here
1997:
Chris is giving Daniel, a 14 yo boy, a golf lesson. He locks the doors to the
store and turns off the lights. He comes up behind Daniel under the impression
of adjusting the child’s technique. He reaches down into Daniel’s underwear and
molests him.
1998:
Chris’s daughter has two friends over for a slumber party. They are sisters.
When everyone is asleep, Jessica, a 15 yo girl, is walking down the stairs of
his multi-level house. Chris approaches, pulls down her shorts, and performs
oral sex on her. He stops when Jessica’s sister stumbles upon the scene.
2005:
Chris provides his house as a location for two friends, a 24 yo and 18 yo, to
have sex with their underage girlfriends, 14 yo and 15 yo.
He
appealed his 2005 convictions that testimony from 1997 & 98 was inadmissible
in the determination of guilt phase of his trial.
THE BBQ
Chris
knew who we were and immediately inserted himself into our group. We figured,
yeah we’ll talk with him a while—he gave us all this food, so we kind of have
to (!!THIS IS HIS STRATEGY!!). Anyway, we listened to him talk about orgies,
sex, golf, and drugs in Europe for about an hour. Topics he hit:
-
Orgies he’d attended in downtown Paris where you
circled the arc de triumph in your car until forming a chain of other searching
cars that would eventually peel off into a warehouse or somewhere to initiate
the orgy. It’s cool you, should totally try it sometime! OKAY.
-
He talked a lot about how his favorite drug to use was
Black Beauty
- He talked a lot about how good the golfing was in Scotland (He molested a 14 yo boy in 1997 while teaching a golf lesson!)
-
He spent a lot of time trying to convince us to
attend the “BBQ After Dark”
The
heat was incredible that day and we were starting to get tired of his weird sex
talk. Chris saw this and asked J what was wrong. J told him it was just kind of
hot. Chris followed up by inviting J to go on and take his shirt off. J said
no, he was fine. Chris said, “Oh no, come on! Take your shirt off! I’ll take my
shirt off!” J ignored it. We were all uncomfortable. Throughout the ENTIRE
event, Chris constantly reminded us about the after dark portion of the BBQ,
which we were all very invited to. We had no plans of going, but kept our
refusals soft and polite out of respect, because again, the BBQ is a tactic to
make you treat him kinder and feel bad about thinking he’s creepy.
THE NEXT DAY
This
was when the solicitations started. For the next year and a half until J
deleted his Grindr last fall, Chris continued to send J messages trying to move
things forward. He also tried to pick up A and S through J’s Grindr. He’s
talked about how he’s really excited about the buzz the event has been getting
and how he’s hoping the event will grow and grow. J hasn’t responded to the
messages that have kept coming for over a year. Attached are a few screenshots.
CONCLUSION
We
tried to contact Buzzfeed after the article was first published about how they
had misrepresented the nature of the event. When they didn’t respond, we didn’t
think it mattered too much. Maybe we were being too critical? The food was good…
However, now that we are aware of Chris’s history of pedophilia, we want to
make sure anyone who decides to attend knows what to expect.
I really would like anyone who’s reblogged the original version of the post to reblog this one. The original one (with over 300k notes) has too many variations of this story. NO ONE should attend this man’s bbq. He’s a pedophile that grooms young boys on grindr and at his “Pure” BBQ. The evidence is all here.
When you thought men been hit rock bottom but they prove you wrong
me @ the Thai ladies
Not only men didnt do anything but they also tried to pull women away and save the fucker.
And checked on him afterward.
Obviously, fucking disgusting pigs they always support each other especially when they’re against women. Men are trash.
the real bro code - protect other men against the consequences of their actions against women
It has nothing to do with these women on the video but the discussion here reminded me of a situation when I was at a club a few years back… a girl was completely passed out on a corner and a guy approached her and started touching her breasts and pulling up her skirt. I was with some male friends and I asked them to go there with me to help her and all of them said no (“not my business” “but it looks like they’re having fun” “I don’t want any problems”). I asked a random girl that was just dancing nearby to go there with me and she just agreed without any objections. The guy freaked out when we verbally confronted him and took off, we found the girl’s friends eventually, everything ended well. But it was terribly disappointing that my male friends, those that call themselves feminist-allies and communists couldn’t care less about a woman being raped and wouldn’t do anything to stop it even when they were called to action.
And this is why Gillette released that ad
Mysteries of Love in Space #1 - “Glasses” (2019)
written by Jeff Loveness
art by Tom Grummett & Cam Smith
I’ve gotta reblog this again because it’s honestly fantastic “he could be anyone and he chooses to be kind” shows such an amazing understanding of Superman as a character, who I think a lot of people who don’t understand him really struggle to write, Jeff Loveness continues to kill it, inhumans spiderman special, groot, he’s written so little and yet I remember like every moment, I really really hope he gets a series soon he more than deserves it
I’ve said this to my non-techie friends countless times. It’s no secret that being able to code makes you a better job applicant, and a better entrepreneur. Hell, one techie taught a homeless man to code and now that man is making his first mobile application.
Learning to code elevates your professional life, and makes you more knowledgeable about the massive changes taking place in the technology sector that are poised to have an immense influence on human life.
(note: yes I realize that 3/5 of those links were Google projects)
But most folks are intimidated by coding. And it does seem intimidating at first. But peel away the obscurity and the difficulty, and you start to learn that coding, at least at its basic level, is a very manageable, learnable skill.
There are a lot of resources out there to teach you. I’ve found a couple to be particularly successful. Here’s my list of resources for learning to code, sorted by difficulty:
Novice
Never written a line of code before? No worries. Just visit one of these fine resources and follow their high-level tutorials. You won’t get into the nitty-gritty, but don’t worry about it for now:
w3 Tutorials (start at HTML on the left sidebar and work your way down)
Intermediate
Now that you’ve gone through a handful of basic tutorials, it’s time to learn the fundamentals of actual, real-life coding problems. I’ve found these resources to be solid:
CodeAcademy - Ruby, Python, PHP
Difficult
If you’re here, you’re capable of building things. You know the primitives. You know the logic control statements. You’re ready to start making real stuff take shape. Here are some different types of resources to turn you from someone who knows how to code, into a full-fledged programmer.
Programming problems
Sometimes, the challenges in programming aren’t how to make a language do a task, but just how to do the task in general. Like how to find an item in a very large, sorted list, without checking each element. Here are some resources for those types of problems
Web Applications
If you learned Python, Django is an amazing platform for creating quick-and-easy web applications. I’d highly suggest the tutorial - it’s one of the best I’ve ever used, and you have a web app up and running in less than an hour.
I’ve never used Rails, but it’s a very popular and powerful framework for creating web applications using Ruby. I’d suggest going through their guide to start getting down-and-dirty with Rails development.
If you know PHP, there’s an ocean of good stuff out there for you to learn how to make a full-fledged web application. Frameworks do a lot of work for you, and provide quick and easy guides to get up and running. I’d suggest the following:
Conclusion
If there’s one point I wanted to get across, it’s that it is easier than ever to learn to code. There are resources on every corner of the internet for potential programmers, and the benefits of learning even just the basics are monumental.
If you know of any additional, great resources that aren’t listed here, please feel free to tweet them to me @boomeyer.
Best of luck!
I’d also like to add some more specialized resources!
Easy game engines (virtually no coding):
More difficult game engines:
Mobile game development:
Game console development:
Note that games can also be created on more general platforms like iOS and Android apps, but the resources listed above are specialized for game development.
In order to develop iOS apps, you’ll need to purchase an iOS developer program membership for $99 a year, which requires an Apple account. Here are some general resources:
iOS apps are developed in the 2 official languages of Apple: Objective-C and Swift, the latter of which is newer and generally much easier to learn.
Objective-C resources:
Swift resources:
Xcode also has SpriteKit, SceneKit, and Metal built in, all of which are incredibly useful for creating apps that require elaborate graphics, particularly games.
SpriteKit resources:
SceneKit resources:
Metal resources:
Also, in order to publish iOS apps, you’ll have to juggle certificates, app ids, and provisioning profiles. This process can be convoluted at times so here are some resources:
In order to develop Android apps, you’ll need to register as a developer for a one-time fee of $25. Here are some general resources:
Android apps are developed in Java and the layout is coded with XML.
Java resources:
XML resources:
For publishing (which is somewhat easier than publishing iOS apps):
Stack Overflow is an ask-and-answer community for programmers. It’s amazing and will save your life. Sign up and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Github offers a student pack (here) if you create an account and prove you’re a student. This gives you free access to a bunch of great programming resources for free for a certain period of time, such as Unreal Engine. Also, Github in general is a site that you can host your code on. Other users can see it, and “fork” it to make a copy of your code and modify it.
Parse is a backend service that allows you to store data in databases it hosts on its own servers. It lets you use push notifications, create users, store and retrieve data, etc. It’s compatible with iOS apps, Android apps, Windows apps, Xamarin, React, Unity, OS X, Windows, JavaScript, PHP, .net, Arduino, and Embedded C. It’s free up to a certain limit that depends on the services you use.
Cloud9, Codebox, and Squad are online IDEs that allow for real-time collaboration and support a variety of languages, so they’re useful for team projects.
And some general advice:
Like the OP said, coding isn’t just for professionals and “geeks” anymore. Anyone can learn it if you really try, and with the rapidly expanding tech industry, learning coding can really broaden your opportunities.
If any of the links are broken, or you have a question or some information/resources to add, you can contact me through the askbox or the OP through his Twitter (as mentioned in his post).
If you’re interested, try some of these out and best of luck!
Great work expanding on my humble list to include a much fuller collection of resources for learning how to code! Cheers!
@be-n7 I think I saw you posting about wanting to learn to code a while back?
